没有资格

他，应该真的很爱她........


...不是不懂得爱，而是已经不懂的如何去爱。

过了，就不再回来，所以把它冷藏，也不要轻易放弃... 累了，就把它收在心地里好了..偶尔的关心其实不就已经足够了吗。对不起。好像不是自己说的，因为根本就没信心勇气，有资格吗？


没有

默契

因为你，希望更近了
因为你，失望更近了


希望/失望 仅仅只不过是那一线之差罢了...不是吗

每一个阶段都有它独特的地方，每一个始点、终点、每一个过程...有些人只属于在自己的世界，他们没有错，只是把保护自己放在一切之上了。有些人喜欢为别人诠释，不是他们野蛮，而是他们不知道，人与人之间的默契，是靠沟通带来的...

有些人太执着 所以再累了也不放开·
不是因为他们不知道
而是因为他们捉太紧
不是因为他们无选择
而是因为他们不舍得，而是因为他们太爱了

不下点小雨，哪来的彩虹？

Everybody wants happiness. No one wants pain. But how can you make a rainbow without a little rain? —— 所有人都想得到幸福，不愿承担痛苦，但是不下点小雨，哪来的彩虹？

我是地球人

见到很像自己的背景，才发现原来自己不是自己想象的那样。有些事不说，不代表看不到／不在意...

不想成为第二个他
如果可以改变那命运我想我会努力，然而也许也已经在改变着了..

原来不闻不问更加辛苦，那问题来了...那为什么装的不在乎呢.. 第一步明明就已经踏了出去，最没有勇气的两件事你都做了，而明明知道会是错过的为什么还捉得那么紧，要放不放呢？苦了谁难道还傻傻分不清楚吗？

你没有走错，只是为什么还回头看呢.. 告诉自己，要么错过也不要成为第二个他，因为你是地球人

六月八日凌晨

如果还笑得出的那应该不叫 有伤心罢....

两个月没上来这里了..变的变了，停留的停留..路一样继续走下去... 看到了，找到了，对了...也不代表一切，很多时候你不仅需要努力，更需要的难道不是际遇中的机遇吗？机会是留给人创造的，但是不是已经力不从心的人呢.............................??

不懂 你的黑色幽默

音乐伴我度过难熬的夜晚...重复的听着同一首歌，然而身边却不是每一件事都会为自己停留。付出的努力是回忆，是过去，我可以说我累了，也许是出力过度了吧，我一笑了之。我可以笑言说没事，可是也许我只需要一句问候、一个拥抱... 让我把自己也结成冰，别融化了眼泪，望着你，慢慢忘了你。那不是杰伦很长的电影，但爱是不是不开口才珍贵

真实的感觉 那是第一次 但是不是就注定那一刻永远都将成为回忆。我原封不动，却把某些东西给关上了门，钥匙交了给你摸索。如果那是值得的，那一扇门始终会被打开

我很好，我很开心，我懂得笑，因为学家说不懂得伪装的傻瓜会跌的越糟...

不懂 你的黑色幽默

最佳解药

如果沉默能成为最佳解药我希望我能就这样愣着什么也不懂不说不做....

酒精麻醉不了失望，却会让自己变得更丑陋，让伤口更痛

是自己招架不当，不是别人的错，只是自己不懂得妥协....

有些东西真的不是一言一语就能够说的清楚....反而是事情复杂化..只恨自己不会说活

没有永远不倒的不倒翁

是真的真的很讨厌健忘的自己．．．．真的很讨厌很讨厌．．．．　=(


我需要的是一个真真能够靠在身边关心自己的人，一个对万事细腻关心的人...愿以自己的优点补上对方的缺点，不是喜欢就忽热，不喜欢就忽冷....这个人其实早就出现在身边，只不过..　

不说不代表不知道。是的，不是什么都能以言语说的出来，更不是什么都需要说出来，然而沉默原本就不是偶得强项，难受得不得谁人知。面对着压力，心情写真真的还能那么真吗...吸一口气，明天会感觉更好吗？

微笑，是为了让生活不复杂化
一个人说累了，明天他依然继续奔驰

尽管这家餐厅的食物不合自己的胃口，明天他一样同一时间出现
不要问他为什么....
那肯定是他一种信念，一种坚持
不要担心他，因为没有永远不倒的不倒翁

不倒的不倒翁，唯有不断为它充气，不是吗....

In a relationship, love and trust is a MUST ♥

there will be sometimes that i din update here already. My heart turned hot and cold, for how the ways you treat me. How much i hoping, the world is only left me and you, and i could give you everything you want. love and trust, is something that we should learn, maybe. You like to hide, even when u are unhappy, how much i hope I'm the bug in your stomach, how much i hope you can share more and i would know more, and i can do it better. Silent break a person heart, i hope there'll be always no silent. Nobody are perfect, but you're so special for me, that's why i love you <3 starting from this second, i'll tell myself, i MUST treat you better. ♥

I Rest I Rust ♥

I Rest I Rust ♥
我一停下休息 就 生锈了

匆忙的生活里 建立起的 成就 与满足感 已远远超过了疲累的身心，忙碌的生活是我那丰富精彩人生的恩师，让我充实过每一刻，一分每一秒也不给 浪费..... 只因就算2012不是世界末日，BenNy 也还是一样只活 一次 ♥

明天就好了

有时候想找人说说话，于是一遍遍翻看手机里的电话簿，
却不知道可以给谁发个短信或打个电话，最后还是按下了“清除”。
其实很想找个人倾诉一下，却又不知从何说起，
最终的最终是什么也不说，告诉自己，明天就好了。

也请爱自己

就像做生意投资一样，不要把所有的鸡蛋放在同一个篮子，更何况当你没把握的时候，垮了出去就和跳楼是没有什么分别的...

保护自己，成为了人生中最重要的一个环节，只有不把自己弄伤才能走更长远的路。

有些时候，我没有的，其实是信心...要知道我和周杰伦一样不是超人。

错过的实在太多，感觉上自己在很多地方做得都不好，从以前到现在，我只把自己认为重要的东西放在第一位，因为心里觉得说那是值得的，然而在别人心中重要的自己，却不曾用心去了解其中的为什么，直到感觉“呃，痛了....” 结果到了最后，只有对不起、对不起....还能有什么？

长大了才有梦想、才知道自己要的路要怎么走。我好胜，却不够自私，不是要自私，只是似乎连最简单的也不能胜任，只有不断对自己说“对不起”

到了今天仍然把自己认为重要的东西给永远摆在第一位，尽管知道那也许是不应该...只恨为什么就连简单的保护自己也不能明白，也不能做到..在朋友的眼中我开始变得如此脆弱。

人是实现的动物，但过度的“现实”真的令人很反感。人家的感受难道不是才最重要吗？

开心其实很简单，让你开心的东西不要抗拒，顺其自然会是开心的基础。

铭记自己的座右铭，人生只活一次，要爱爱你的人，把欢乐带给你喜欢的人；也请爱自己，把欢乐带给自己。

停止犯贱，从新出发！ =) 因为你只活一次

Euthanasia

Euthanasia is actually from a Greek word called εὐθανασία, that bringing the meaning of good death. According to Wikipedia, euthanasia refers to the practice of ending a life in a manner which relieves pain and suffering, in fact, it’s the intentional killing by act or omission of a dependent human being for his or her alleged benefit. Well, the legalization of euthanasia is still a hot debate topic today, most of the countries they do not allowed euthanasia, for example our country, Malaysia, it is mostly because of the religion and also the belief of the people here.

Basically, euthanasia is categorized into different ways, where are voluntary, non-voluntary, or involuntary and active or passive. For voluntary, it mean the person itself is killed has requested to be killed, and most are passive euthanasia, and in this sense, euthanasia is widely non-criminal. Some people they feel that euthanasia is better instead of living but suffer for the pain.

For non-voluntary, it’s when the person who is killed made no request and gave no consent, for example the child euthanasia, which is still illegal worldwide today. A bit different with non-voluntary euthanasia, involuntary euthanasia is refers to when the person who is killed are actually made an expressed wish to the contrary, in other word is they against this decision. And so, some people argue that it’s kind of murder.

Besides, there are two type of euthanasia, active and passive euthanasia. Active euthanasia entails the use of lethal substances or forces to kill and is the most controversial mean. Anyhow, it’s legal in Belgium, Luxembourg and the Netherlands. For passive euthanasia, it entails the withholding of common treatments such as antibiotics, necessary for the continuance of the patient life.

In some situation, euthanasia is acceptable as it can help the patient stop suffering from the pain, just like passive voluntary cases. But somehow there are many people against euthanasia, why? And what are the reasons make them think and believe that euthanasia should not be allowed to end one’s life. Here are some reasons for why they oppose euthanasia.

A doctor responsibility is actually to reduce sufferings and maintain their patient life at all costs. In other word, if euthanasia been legalize, doctor will become the “killer” or executioners but not the one who maintain the people life. Especially for cases like non-voluntary or involuntary, for the one who killed may blame the doctor or people who made the decision.

A cure can come any day, no one knew and no one can predict the development of medication. Some people consider the cost for curing the disease or maybe there is no ways to cure yet, so they decide to give up by choosing euthanasia. But dun forgot, new and high technology medical instrument and also operation skills are growing from time to time and cheaper to cheaper, which will actually affordable by everyone, and some even have insurance to cover the cost. Therefore, legalize of euthanasia will actually grab the chance or opportunities of the patient to continue their life, which is very cruel and unfair. There is a say, we always deserve a hope unless we give up.

Euthanasia mostly decided or conducted after the patient or it family get the advice or suggestion from the doctor. But will the doctors’ predictions wrong? I am not saying that doctor are not professional, but we cannot deny that doctor prediction are not always hundred percent correct. How if the prediction come wrong? It will become a murder already. We always talk about miracle, yes, it might come as long as we believe it and do not easily give up.

And of course there are many parties that against euthanasia especially the religion parties, but some claimed and said it is mercy killing, is one of the ways to save person from getting sufferings. In conclusion, there are people who agree and also disagree with euthanasia. So should euthanasia be legal? It depends on how u evaluate.

Materialism VS Enjo-Kosai

Enjo-Kosai, shortened form we called it enko, means compensated dating. The term of enjo-kosai is first appeared in the Asahi Shimbun on 20 September 1994. According to Wikipedia, it is a practice which originated in Japan where older men give money and/or luxury gifts to attractive women for their companionship, and possibly sexual favors. The female participants range from primarily school-age girls to housewives.

You can easily get the news about enjo-kosai by newspaper or just google it on the net, it had already become a very normal but serious cases all around the world. The anthropologist Laura Miller argues in her research that the majority of enjo-kosai dates consist of groups of girls going with a group of elder men to a karaoke bar for several hours and being paid for their time. Besides, in 1998 a survey by Asian Women’s Fund found that more than twenty percent of all high school girls are engage in enjo-kosai. This is a very worst data that shown us how serious enjo-kosai is in nowadays, and also perceived as an extension of Japan’s growing focus on materialism.

Yes, in this realistic world one thing we cannot deny is there are many people who are materialistic, and this is the main causes of why enjo-kosai happened. Some of them lack of confidence and hope to gain it by showing off what they have, but most of times they do not afford to have those luxury brand product, so what they do? Some choose to rob, steal, and for some, especially the girls, they choose enjo-kosai, compensated dating. Of course there are also guy who did the same, and we called it as gyaku-enjo-kosai, or reverse compensated dating.

Materialism, become the main reason and cause of enjo-kosai. So, what is the effect that bringing to the society? In the perception of the Japanese society, they started to worry that those girls who are involved in enjo kosai will then grow up to be unfit wives or mothers in one day later, and their this kind of bad habit, materialism, will bringing a bad effect to their family and life. They might abandon their loyalties and commitments to their family just for offers of money and material benefits. Another thing that the Japanese society worries is how the world will think of the Japanese women. I believe when we talk about Porn or Av, a lot people will then point to the Japan women, which is actually a big wrong perception by the world. A good woman in Japan is supposed to be sensible, modest, nurturing, respectful, yet the girls who participating in enjo-kosai had spoiled the image badly.

Japan government has actually ban or illegalize the coitus prostitution early since 1958, which mean enjo-kosai are not a legal activity in Japan. In japan, enjo-kosai is seen as a moral problem relating to Japanese youth. To combat enjo-kosai, many prefectures have instituted a program call hodo. Hodoin, are actually plain-clothed police officers or volunteers in helping to solves and reduces the cases of enjo-kosai. In order to solved this cases, care is taken not to ostracized the girls but instead give them assistance and advice to steer them away from enjo-kosai. Well, although many efforts had putting in by many parties to solve this immoral problem, but that has not stopped some high social status person from being arrested for their involvement with enjo kosai, for example government official, monkz, company executives or even teacher.

Enjo-kosai is started at japan, but then it began to spread to other East Asian nation in the late 1990s via media, like Taiwan, South Korea and Hong Kong. Enjo-kosai will later on become a bad culture worldwide if no efficient solution been taken to solve it. It’s not only about prostitute, but about the moral problems in our society.

心情写真

发现自己的文笔好像一直在退步，可是思维却没停顿过

再优美的句子也许也不能形容出现在的我，的感觉。心情写真，真的那么真吗....

男人要的....也一样是被感动 ♥

[做人凡事要靜
靜靜的來
靜靜的去
靜靜努力
靜靜收穫
切忌喧嘩]



可是我就是不能....
我向往的，是大起的快乐、幸福的甜蜜、完美的主义

我善于表达，请不要嫌我烦
因为我相信，你不会明白更不会喜欢静静的我
哪天我静了，我想你会讨厌我

也许我伤害了你，请原谅我的自私
请相信那不是不爱你，不是我想要
只是我想那是害怕了，想保护自己


是的，我也许是那么的不同，但我知道自己是错的
但我确实是那么认真爱你，只是方法不同了吧

男人需要尊重，女人需要关爱
男人要的....也一样是被感动 ♥

我想，我会轰轰烈烈爱一次，就算最后一次也好

阳光

成满热水的杯子

如果不忍得痛的话，那么请慢慢放手吧

很现实的，没有人会想要伤害任何人，然而人类就是会有时那么的自私。有些人不会知道你在想的是什么，有些人永远也不会站在你那儿而你而想。

你可以怎样呢？继续....或放手 两者不也是一样辛苦吗？

因为爱了，因为是自己爱了...就算再怎么难熬你也不以为然，那不应该叫做盲目，因为你喜欢，因为你爱了，那些动力，是你想象不到，控制不到的。不要强迫自己，凭感觉选择你想选择的，做你想做的，那是没有对与错的。我常会和自己说"人生只有一回"，好好珍惜的更应该是自己，多与某一些其他你可能觉得它很重要，却不是最重要的东西。

累了就放，痛了就放，就好像成满热水的杯子一样

最踏实的承诺

在成熟的面前，物质是一段感情的必需品。然而这是不是就是说感情是建立在物质之上呢？在一个长大的过程中，逃不过的，是现实的改变。我们不想但我们却不得不去面对。因为有了感情，才有了责任，才有了物质上的肯定。所以真正的应该是物资建立在感情之上才对，责任也一样

因为爱了，所以才付出

不是因为付出，所以爱

为什么有些人可以爱情长跑呢？有些人却半年没就告终了。每一个人对感情都会有着不同的看法，你不能永远都说因为别人和你不一样，所以别人错了。爱情是一段漫长的道路，没有捷径，更不是一眨眼的美丽。

真正漂亮的爱情不再真的只是你爱我、我爱你

但相爱永远都是爱情最踏实的承诺

我们的世界

常会听到别人说你的世界、我的世界、他的世界、他们的世界、我们的世界.....世界，那什么才算是某个世界？一个人的世界，是否只有就这一个人独有，是不是就只有这一个人能够明白。有些东西不曾尝试会真的知道，会真的明白、真的得到吗？一层又一层的布纱让我看不见前方的美丽，所有的东西瞬间怎么变得模糊。

我努力摸索，却那么无助

你不明白

不是走不进你的世界，

而是连怎么让你走入我的世界，也渐渐变得似乎困难了。

最后的遗憾

9 days left...

离不开的是 “影子”

等待的是 “不可能”

因为悲伤，所以精彩

是吗？如果因为黑暗而美丽、因为悲伤而精彩，那么你真的宁可平淡如其的就这样渡过吗？

因为悲伤而精彩，因为遗憾而珍惜...

有人会累了，有人会怨了，很多东西不是说就这样可以让你控制一切，你不是故事的导演，更不是写故事的老板。你没有改编的权利，唯一可以做的事就是把握每一次演出的机会。

如果有如果，如果有本来....我希望我不是这精彩故事的作家。

回不去的过去，让它随风飘去，路也还是一样得一直走下去，就算再怎么累、怎么不精彩..

至少最后留下的，不会再是 遗憾。

My Own Terms

Trying to live someone’s shadow just to impressed is a punishment you can give to yourself. Why don't just live my life on my own terms? =)

benny
before daybreak of the 6th day of cny'11

The status of women compare to men in ancient time

Since the early days of involving women in the Industrial Revolution in Europe and North America have made considerable progress towards equality of the both genders. Although it is not completely successful yet but lots people in nowadays says that it has now finally balanced the sense of equality between the two gender in our society, women are slowly treated the same as men. Something that we cannot deny is, women are getting more and more important compare with men today, some of them even hold the important position in an organization. Vigdis Finnbogadottir, President of Iceland, she is not only the 1st woman president in Europe and longest-serving female political ruler in the world but also the 1st one elected directly by the people in the world, it shown that the acceptance of women in the society is getting more attention and highlighted, the equality between two genders is also getting closer and closer. But how many people do really know about the status of women compare to men in ancient time?

From the earliest years of ancient times, a woman was always in second place, they never been putting in the 1st place or giving any considerable priority in any field. Since early historical times, women have been considered not only intellectually inferior to men but also a major source of temptation and evil. Most of them had been treating bad all the time and suffer from the contempt vision. The most worst is the early Roman law it described the women as children that forever inferior to the men. Infanticide was an acceptable practice in the ancient times, and females were the ones who usually disposed of since they didn't have the same worth as males. This is all the rage and cannot be forgiven, well this is the fact and no action been taken to protect the right of the females babies. Males babies were just like gold nuggets but females babies not. Any newborns that were deemed unacceptable were either left out for vultures and wild animals to carry away, or sent to be slaves. Infanticide is very normal at that time, but who care? No people appreciate or concerned about this issue. In the result, the equality of both genders is getting worst.

Man have stronger body physical strength compare to women, thus a woman of these times could not be entrusted to handle her own private affairs. There is a belief where a guy can always handle things better than woman, and this is also the natural order of mankind and also a product of the historical domination of women by men. Women were seen mainly as baby-carriers and homemakers, the main job of a woman in ancient was to bear sons and serve their husband, they are not allowed to work or taking any important position in the society, as their ability was being looking down. Men appear to have dominated medieval history. In here, it shown that in ancient time women were less important and less valued compare to men.

The status of a woman was defined by men. In ancient, marriage was like a protection for woman, but when a woman’s husband passed away, they cannot marry again, they have to remain as a widow in the rest of their life. But to the man, they can marry as many times as they want even though their wife still alive, not only that, most of them have more than one wife at a time. They responsibility is to continue the family line In the marriage under the feudal ethical code, it is not only about the unfairness but also the culture of that time. Women were suffers from it, but there is no ways for them to fights for their right. They have to just follow the old minded trend.

Anyhow, not every ancient is the same. Unlike the position of women in most other ancient civilizations, including Greece, scholars believe that in the ancient of India, the women enjoyed the equal status in all fields of life, during the early Vedic period. According to the Rigvedic verses suggest that the women were married at a mature age, and unlike others, they are free to choose their husband. Besides, works by ancient Indian grammarians suggest that the women were educated at that time.

Shares, Vivian Loy, Benny Chai

hurt

I look at her picture, in my wallet... i miss her, i love her.

I need her, at least when i am down.

无动于衷

最悲哀的不是不知道，而是明明知道却无动于衷

爱情不是每个人都能够得的到...但有些人得到了却不珍惜...

爱情不是每个人都能够得的到...但有些人得到了却不打开对方的心....

没有适不适合，只有珍不珍惜

因为爱，所以爱，那本来就是盲目的；

累了，就歇；痛了，就放

其他的，还重要吗？

没有适不适合，只有珍不珍惜；

有必要千辛万苦吗？没有

不要忽视“缘”的存在

会常听到别人说，生命中所有东西都是自己掌握的，可是很多时候你会发现，你抵不过命运的转弄。有些时候明明知道前面是个洞，你还是会不经心给踩下去，有很多时候、很多东西就都会是那么盲目，不是你想不想，而是你能不能，尽管你会有很多原因，你会有很多借口。

人，就总是那么犯贱。

习惯

杯子说：“我寂寞，我需要水。”­

水温柔地说：“我来陪伴你！”

水很热，杯子要融化了，杯子认为这是热恋的感觉；水温了，杯子依然温暖，杯子说这是生活的感觉；水凉了且浑浊了，杯子开始压抑，想要舍弃它。­

杯子用力一晃，水终于离开了杯子的心，撒落一地。

水流泪了，水知道它和杯子再也无法重复那种杯深，水澈，一眼见底的美好，而透明的杯壁再也映不出彼此熟悉的眉目……­

杯子很开心，可是在水离开的一瞬间，杯子却失去了重心，掉到了地上。杯子碎了，它看见它心里每一个地方都有水的痕迹，这时候它才明白，原来它早已习惯这杯生命中的水，习惯到忘记了爱，可是，它回不去了，它再也无法把水完整地装在心里……­

杯子哭了，它的泪和水融在一起，一颗一颗，闪亮闪亮的，却苦涩苦涩的…

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